Why Was I Born Into This Family? Understanding Our Soul Correction

Have you ever wondered why you were born exactly where you were born? Why this family? These parents? This country? This culture? Even this tiny village or huge city?

I believe none of it is random.

When we speak about soul correction - or tikkun - we all have something our soul came here to work on. Usually, there is one main soul correction, and from that one correction many different patterns, situations and challenges can develop throughout our life. And then there can be other, maybe smaller, corrections as well.

My main soul correction in this lifetime is low self-worth. I might have mentioned this before, but I don't think I've ever really explained how clearly I can now see the connection between my soul correction and where I was born.

Because when I look back at my life - my family, my upbringing, my country, my culture and the environment I grew up in - suddenly, it all makes so much sense.

My Soul Chose the Perfect Environment

I was born in Slovakia, in a very small village, into a normal, hardworking Slovak family. And I honestly can't laugh enough about how popular the whole "Slavic nature" has become online in recent years. Everybody is making fun of Slavic people - including us Slavic people. 😂

Of course, I can't speak for every Slavic person or every Slovak family. I'm talking about the culture I experienced and the beliefs I absorbed growing up.

We are very independent people. From a young age, many of us learn something along the lines of: don't bother anyone. Try to solve everything by yourself. Definitely don't bother anyone with your emotions or your problems. Suppress what you can. Don't show too much to the world.

But there is another side to it as well: don't be too unique. Stay in the row. Blend in. Obey. Don't stand out too much, because if you do, people might start talking about you. They might point fingers at you.

So there is almost this strange combination: be independent, deal with everything yourself and don't need too much from anyone - but at the same time, don't stand out.

And when I look at this now through the lens of my own soul correction, I think: Of course. Of course my soul chose this environment.

My tikkun is low self-worth, so my soul literally chose an environment where I would be challenged by it from the moment I was born. Keep yourself small. Don't annoy anyone. Don't need too much. Don't be too unique. Don't stand out. Be a good girl and stay in the row.

Perfect.

Honestly, it's a perfect placement.

Family, Approval and the People Pleaser in Remission

When I talk about my upbringing, I want to make something very clear. I have amazing parents. This isn't about blaming them for anything. They were raised within the same culture and with many of the same beliefs, and naturally they passed some of those things on to me. That's how these patterns travel through generations.

One of the things I experienced was chasing love through pleasing, especially trying to please our father. And this is where another part of my soul correction shows itself very clearly: people pleasing.

If I truly believe that I am worthy, why do I need somebody else's approval to prove my worth?

There we go.

People pleasing becomes another branch coming from the same root: low self-worth.

For most of my life, I was trying to please people so they would like me, love me, agree with me and see my worth. I wanted other people to confirm something I couldn't yet fully see within myself.

Today, I lovingly call myself a people pleaser in remission. 😂 I've worked very hard on this. I've made huge progress. I genuinely don't need everybody's approval anymore.

But these patterns don't disappear just because one day you recognise them and say, "Oh yeah, I've sorted that." No. They hold on. They find different situations in which to show themselves again. Just when you think you've completed that particular lesson, it can pop up somewhere else and you're like, Oh. Hello again.

For me, this soul correction isn't something I "fixed." It's more like a lifelong project.

And then there is money.

I grew up in a normal working-class Slovak family with hardworking parents. Money was needed, of course, but at the same time there were complicated beliefs around having money, making money and especially having a lot of money. Business wasn't something we really understood or were taught.

Again, when I look at the cultural conditioning I experienced, it makes sense. Business people stand out. They have money. They buy things. They travel. They do things differently. And standing out from the row wasn't necessarily something to celebrate.

What was celebrated? Hard work.

Work hard. And then work harder. You need to work hard to deserve a better life. If you're not working 60 or 70 hours a week, are you really working hard enough? And God forbid you become wealthy without working your ass off for it. 😂

Working less and earning more? What is this nonsense?!

Within the conditioning I absorbed, there was almost something suspicious about that. You can have more - but you need to suffer for it a little bit first. You need to work hard to deserve abundance. You need to work hard to deserve a better life. You need to work hard to deserve admiration.

And when I look underneath those beliefs, I can see my soul correction again: worthiness.

I have to do enough to be worthy. I have to work enough to be worthy. I have to please enough to be worthy. I have to prove that I deserve what I receive.

Different situations, but underneath them, the same correction.

What If Where You Were Born Wasn't Random?

This is why I find it so interesting to look at where our soul placed us. Not only the body you were born into. Not only your name. Not only your parents or siblings. Look at the whole environment - your family, your country, your culture, your origins, the beliefs you grew up around, the struggles that came with the place you were born and the things that were considered "normal" in your family.

Maybe there is something there for you to see.

People can behave in certain ways their whole lives without really knowing why. We people-please. We hide. We overwork. We seek approval. We struggle to receive. We keep ourselves small. And we think, Well, that's just who I am.

But what if it isn't?

What if some of these patterns are showing you exactly what you're here to work through?

For me, understanding my tikkun has helped me put light on behaviours that I couldn't properly understand before. It doesn't mean that knowing about the pattern magically removes it. It gives me the opportunity to see it. And once I can see it, I can work with it.

That's what so much of my inner work has been about - learning to love myself, accept myself, allow myself to be who I actually am, allow myself to be unique, allow myself to stand out, allow myself to receive and slowly stop needing other people to tell me that I am worthy.

When I put everything together and ask myself why my soul placed me in this family, with these amazing parents, in Slovakia, surrounded by these particular cultural beliefs, in a tiny village - and then I put my main soul correction next to it, low self-worth - it makes so much sense to me.

I was placed exactly where I needed to be.

It was the perfect placement.

Actually, I think of it almost like a work placement for the soul. 😂 You get placed exactly where the work is.

And you stay with the lesson until you pass it.

I don't mean that literally as in, "You can't leave your country until you've learned your lesson." I left mine. I'm talking about this lifetime and, within my spiritual beliefs, the journey of the soul through different lifetimes.

I believe that if I don't understand my correction, if I don't work on it and don't move through what my soul came here to learn, I may find myself facing a very similar lesson again.

Maybe even in another lifetime.

And honestly? Thank God I'm strongly working on mine because I really hope I don't have to come back and do the whole bloody thing again. 😂

How I Found My Soul Correction

My understanding of the soul doesn't come from only one place. Over the years, I've received knowledge and wisdom from many different sources, teachings, experiences and my own inner work.

But Kabbalah is where I discovered and began to understand my own soul correction - my tikkun - much more deeply.

Through studying Kabbalah, I started learning more about the soul, where the soul comes from, the corrections we may carry into this lifetime and why certain patterns and lessons can keep appearing in our lives.

For me, learning that my main correction is connected to low self-worth was like being given another piece of the puzzle. Suddenly, I could look backwards at my life and see connections I hadn't been able to see before.

It didn't give me an excuse for my patterns. Quite the opposite. It gave me the awareness to start working on them.

And this is why I'm sharing all of this with you.

I'm not telling you what your soul correction is. That's yours to discover. I'm simply giving you a hand and perhaps pointing you towards another door you can open if this subject speaks to you.

If you're curious about your own tikkun, you might want to explore the teachings of Kabbalah for yourself and start learning about the soul and soul correction. You can also look at your own life and begin asking questions.

Why was I born into this particular family?

Why this country?

Why this culture?

What beliefs did I inherit?

What patterns keep repeating in my life?

Where do I continually feel challenged?

What am I constantly being asked to overcome?

And maybe, instead of only asking, "Why did this happen to me?", you can sometimes ask:

"Why was I placed here, and what might my soul be trying to learn through it?"

Maybe when you look at your family, your upbringing, your culture, your country and the patterns that have followed you through your life, something will suddenly start making a little more sense.

Mine certainly did. 🤍